It’s time for you to let it go!
Have you always stopped short of reaching your goal(s) in weight loss, fitness, business? The list can go on. Do you know why? Is it fear of what now, how others close to you will react? Are you afraid that once you achieve that goal you won’t have anything else to work on or that you won’t be able to achieve those goals so you just give up, or worse don’t even try?
Are there people in your life that try to sabotage your efforts and do you consciously or unconsciously allow it? Does this stop you from even trying? This seems to happen to many people, especially in weight loss. Why? It is possible your friends or family may not realize what they are doing. They could be intimidated or jealous of your success, especially if they are afraid to try themselves. The old saying goes “misery loves company”. If you lose weight or succeed at whatever you are trying, will you not want to be them anymore? Often they start off being supportive, but as it becomes apparent that you are accomplishing what you set out to do, their attitude changes.
This can be especially true for couples. If your partner has never known you thin, and has their own insecurities they are less likely to be supportive. They worry when you reach your goal you will not want to be with them anymore. So they may appear and try to be supportive for a time, but as you become more successful their insecurities and sabotage attempts emerge.
Only you can stop it or not allow it. It’s your time to do you. Reach for that brass ring! That might mean removing negative, unsupportive people from your life or at least not being around them unless absolutely necessary. That might not be quite so easy with a spouse. In that case you have to try to understand, do what you can to reassure them, and still move forward.
I feel lucky. “The man” has always supported me. He’s loved me thin and fat. When we got married I didn’t weigh 100 lbs soak and wet. I didn’t start gaining weight until after the birth of our third child, and then it was a few years before I really started gaining, I just actually never lost all the baby weight. He never once commented on the weight I’d gained, and always tried to make me feel sexy.
I have many insecurities that go way back. If I’m not careful they can creep in and cause me to doubt myself. Ironically the source of those doubts is no longer a factor, but the voices are there at times, just the same.
Starting this blog is one of the scariest things I’ve done in a long while. I’ve always thought I would like to write, but never thought I’d be good at it. I’m not sure now that I’m good at it, but I’m enjoying it. On top of that I decided to add my Plunder Jewelry business: www.plunderdesign.com/grandma2glamma and my Legging Army business: www.leggingarmy.com/#grandma2glamma at the same time. Go big or go home? lol! If you haven’t had a chance to check them out head over and have a look.
I hope you have supportive people in your life. If not don’t give up, you too can succeed.
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I hope y’all have a great weekend! I’m not sure, yet, what we’ll be getting into.
Until the next time