She Believed She Could

Here we are again. We’ve made it back to Monday! Another new week, with new, endless possibilities.

Do you dread Monday’s or do you view it as a week of new possibilities?

Monday certainly gets a bad rap from most everyone. I am guilty of being a Monday basher, myself. When I was working I had come to dread Mondays and every other day I had to go to work. I came to realize that job was sucking the life out of me. I knew this long before I left it, but I was hesitant to leave it.



Mainly fear of losing an income. That’s never easy to do. It wasn’t a large income, but more than we would have had without it. You get used to having a certain income, maybe having a bit more disposable income, and eliminating it is scary; even when YOU make the decision to do so. What if this breaks, what if this happens, what if?

It was six years ago September 1st that I walked out that door for the last time. It was scary, from the day I made the decision, until the day I walked out the door. It was one of the best things I could have done for my peace of mind, my well-being, and the well-being of my family. But I was afraid.

On the surface it seemed my job was perfect. It was about mile from my house, I only worked three and a half days a week. I met some great people, some of whom I still have a little contact with. “The Man” thinks if I had not left when I did to take care of Noah I would still be there. He really doesn’t know how wrong he is. He thought the job was perfect.

Patients of the doctor I worked for thought it was the perfect place to work, that the doctor must be a wonderful boss. They weren’t behind the scenes. They didn’t know how things really were. My mental and physical health was suffering from it. It was far from perfect.

I’m so glad when the opportunity arose to leave I took it. I can’t say everyday since has been a bed of roses, but it was the right decision. I stepped on blind faith that it would work and it has.

Fear can hold us back from so many things. I have had some fear racked moments a few times since leaving that job; for different reasons.

When I set out to lose weight; could I do it…again? When I started practicing yoga; could I do it? The “I’m not flexible, I’m not athletic, I’m uncoordinated” thoughts ran through my mind. But I decided to try; it was a great decision. Then I decided to run a half marathon, could I do it? I wasn’t a runner, I had never run unless forced to. And I did it. Then on to a marathon, then five half marathons in five weekends.

This year began with me deciding to start the blog; would anyone read it? Then starting my businesses; will anyone buy what I sell? Will anyone want to join my team? If that wasn’t enough, a chance to become a yoga teacher presented itself. Again fear; could I do it? Could I afford to do it? Could I work it around the schedule with the kids and family time? I have set out to run a half and a full marathon. The half on Saturday and the full on Sunday; back to back.

All of these have come or come with an element of fear. But I pushed that fear aside and tried anyway. So far I have been successful. Some of these haven’t been completed yet, but I am moving towards them.

Fear? You bet! Can I do it?


Through it all my one mantra has been “She believed she could, so she did”! I have also added “I CAN and I WILL…watch me”.

Do you let fear hold you back? Don’t. Take charge of your life and destiny. If you dream it, you can achieve it. It doesn’t matter your age. That doesn’t mean you need to set out to achieve the same goals I have. Just reach for what you want. I am here to support and encourage you along the way. I still have fear. I am a work in progress, but I’m not allowing it to hold me back.

Take a moment and share your fears, goals, thoughts with us. What would you like to accomplish? What fear is holding you back?

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Author: Janet Earling-Bencivenni

I am a Lifestyle/Fashion Blogger, SAHGMa, Marathoner, and PowerLifter; sharing my journey of weight loss, fitness, fashion, and finding myself after 50. My hope is to help, encourage, and inspire others along their journey. I am here to tell you being 50 is indeed FIERCE!!!

1 thought on “She Believed She Could”

  1. Love today’s post! We have a lot in common, lady. I worked as an Estate Manager with a six figure income, and was completely miserable! After a year I had to drag myself to work each day. Finally my husband say, “honey try to get fired!”. That was on a Saturday night. The next Monday I got laid off! What an amazing blessing that was!!! I haven’t back to a “job” since.

    Also, you have a Noah? I do too. My youngest son is Noah.

    I ran a half marathon for my 52 birthday. Hated running, but I was so proud of that moment.

    Great inspiration!

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