Believe Them

Beware.

This is not my usual blog post. In fact it might be considered, by some, downright controversial. But I am so disgusted with some of the things I’m hearing and reading this week, that I have to jump on my soap box. I have to speak out.

Women are being villanized (is that a word, sp?) left and right to no end. Why? Because they dare to come forward about sexual abuse that happened many years ago. The question is being asked “why did they wait X-number of years to come forward?” “This can’t be true or they wouldn’t have waited”.

Why? Why did they wait?

Because of the reactions they are receiving now!!!  They are being victimized all over again. It has probably taken them this long to be able to deal with the backlash that is occurring and even now I would imagine there are times they are having second thoughts, to some degree, about speaking out. It is hard enough for a victim to come forward when the abuser is a regular everyday guy or gal (yes women abuse too) but when it is someone in a position of power/authority it magnifies the situation. By power or authority that may only be an adult when you are a child. It doesn’t necessarily mean that person is a lawyer, judge, or other “high-ranking” type person, but as we see, it can be. Who is going to be believed most likely? I think we can see every day how that usually plays out.

How do I know this?

I am a survivor of child molestation and sexual abuse. I was first abused by a family member; at the age of NINE. I didn’t tell anybody. Why? Because I was threatened. I was threatened with more abuse (a beating, spanking, whipping, whatever you called it back then). I was told I would be taken away from my family. That’s what abusers do, especially to children. One day I went to spend the night with my aunt. The abuser took me to her house. She realized based on my actions something wasn’t right and flat-out questioned me, after he left. Yes, my aunt. Not my mother, who was clueless and self-absorbed. At first I denied it. I was scared. But, my aunt had the good sense to be persistent and I eventually told her. She contacted the proper authorities and the investigation ensued. It was in the very early 1970’s and things then were nothing like today (or maybe they were). What I remember is that: I was physically examined (at nine, can you imagine?) there was dead sperm found in my vagina, the abuser was arrested, made bail (his wife, my half-sister, believed him) a court case followed and he was found not guilty. He was more credible than a nine-year old girl/child.

Guess what?

He went on to continue abusing (his own children) SURPRISE…..around 1988 he pistol whipped my sister, went after their daughter again; and she shot and killed him!

I often wondered how my aunt, who never had children knew. That went to her grave with her. I know “why” she supposedly never had children. According to the stories “something happened to her” as a child that prevented her from being able to have children. As I got older I began suspect she had been abused too. You do develop a sixth sense about people and can spot an offender.

The abuse didn’t stop with him. As a young teenager it happened again. At church. By a church member, someone who was also a church “worker” with the youth groups. I never told a soul. Why? Because I knew I would not be believed. Who would believe me over a “man of god”? Telling had worked so well for me already. So I kept quiet and stayed as far away as I could. I honestly think I was a prime target because of the first situation. I also think because I never received counseling or support when it happened the first time I believed it was ok. I wasn’t worthy (on some level) to not have this happen to me. This person also abused others. Ironically, several years ago someone else took his life too.

You know what they say. Karma is a bitch!

If I said told you I didn’t do a little happy dance when I heard about both of their deaths, I would be lying.

They eventually got their comeuppance on this earth. Sadly they continued to inflict pain on others before it happened.

It still affects me deeply to this day. Most of the time I think I have moved on. But when I hear the things we are hearing now it brings it all back to the surface! I have always been hyper vigilant in knowing who my children and grandchildren are around (as much as is possible). I check the sex offender registry often. If a new sex offender moves into the neighborhood I make sure they come nowhere near my littles. I will not move to a new house without checking first. I cannot stop someone from moving into a house near me, I can control whether or not I knowingly move next to them.

To my children and anyone else. If your child, grandchild, niece, nephew or anyone tells you they are being abused or harassed BELIEVE THEM!!! If it is proven they are wrong, so be it. BELIEVE THEM FIRST!! Abusers continue to get away with these heinous acts because we doubt the accuser over the abuser! I don’t care if they tell you it’s your best friend since you were twelve years old. I don’t care if it’s a family member. For gods sake BELIEVE THEM!

Today on Facebook, I saw posts by “friends” making light of the recent allegations in the news. I don’t do this lightly, but I have removed them from my friends. I will begin removing anyone from my circle who does this or defends such actions. Someone told me recently I need more friends on Facebook. Well, my list is going to be dwindling…..I have no desire to be associated with anyone like that. I can only imagine how they would act or think if this were their daughter, wife, mother, sister.

Why are these particular women choosing now to speak out? I don’t know. Maybe because there was the #me too campaign a few weeks ago on social media? Maybe they are realizing they are not alone? They have a voice. They will be heard.

Today I urge you to speak out if you have been abused and silent. Even if it is too late for “anything to be done”. Even the offender is dead and gone. Don’t carry this around with you any longer. Don’t let them keep a hold on you!

There is more I would like to say, and one day I might. I will end here for today, though as my thoughts are becoming jumbled and I don’t want to ramble.

Until the next time

Janet

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My Special Treat

It’s Wednesday, again.

How is your week going? Do you tend to get into a mid-week slump by now?

Last week my friend Susie from the blog PenelopeSeraphina posted about how to combat the mid-week slump. If this is you, you should go check it out here.

If you’ve noticed on Wednesday I try to focus my posts on weight loss or workouts or both. They do kind of go hand in hand. And I have not been the strictest on following any plan this year, so you might be wondering why I’m telling you what I finally found at the grocery store this past weekend.

My beloved peppermint ice cream!

Actually, I have been on the hunt for several weeks now. And stopped short of doing a little happy dance in the aisle. Just what I need when I’ve been struggling to stay in track, right? If you notice I did get the lower fat version, which is lower in WW smart points. At this point I am also only allowing my self one spoonful after dinner. This is my strategy for not over indulging and making it last longer for when I can no longer get it later in the year.

I have been doing really well this week. I decided to follow the simply filling WW plan to get myself in check. So far it has worked, but it is truly one day at a time. The leftover Halloween candy has not been a trigger either. Let’s hope I didn’t just jinx that…..

There is a story behind my peppermint ice cream. I shared it as one of my Simple/Guilty Pleasures a while back.

When I was a little girl, as far back as I can remember, my dad would take me to Regency Square Mall in Jacksonville, FL.  We would usually stop into the ice cream shop (the one with 30+ flavors). Back “in the day” they had peppermint candy ice cream. I almost always got that. Once in a while I would go rouge and get bubblegum, but I always came back to my peppermint. One day I was old enough for a double scoop of that deliciousness! I thought I was something else walking around with that big side by side double cone! As I grew up I would still get that peppermint ice cream. Now they no longer have it, or if they do it’s only at special times and there isn’t one close enough to know.

One day, probably 30+ years ago, we were getting some items from the Schwann’s man/truck. Lo and behold come holiday time they had peppermint ice cream! I was ecstatic! Then we stopped using them and I lost it for a time. After moving to Maryland I discovered Friendly’s restaurants and ice cream and they had it! Then one day it was in the grocery stores around holiday time. This girl was beyond excited! Now every year I look forward to finding it and reliving a little piece of my childhood and special memories of my dad. Isn’t it funny, I can still see the spot where that ice cream store was and see myself standing there next to daddy ordering it?

When it hits the shelves seems to vary by year. I found it one year in September! Usually it’s mid to late October, but this year it was “late”. Maybe that’s just my opinion, but by golly they need to get with the program! This is one thing I will always work into my WW plan.

I always wish daddy were here to share it with me. But it always brings back fond memories of him and a time when life was a little bit simpler. I imagine he is smiling down when I find it. It makes me a little melancholy and this time of year I tend to go inside for a bit anyway. Because of that I may not post as often the next couple of months, but we will see.

I realized a couple of days ago I also have “post race let down”. If you are a runner and run races you may have experienced this. You finish the last race on your calendar and have nothing in the works to train for. It’s nice to have a break from the training routine, but it doesn’t take long for wanderlust to set in. Now it’s not as if I have nothing to work towards. YTT isn’t going to be getting any easier. In fact, it’s going to be ramping up in intensity over the next couple of months. This is what I really need to be focusing on. I didn’t start that just for fun.

The other day “The Man” and I were talking about the races and he asked if I was going back to my twice a week sessions, with Jeff, now that the race is over. I told him I wasn’t sure yet, since I haven’t talked to Jeff about scheduling. He said working out with Jeff maybe why I was able to run those races back to back. I told him that was most likely true, along with yoga. As much as I want to get back on my regular schedule with Jeff and start training for a powerlifting meet, I need to be realistic with what I already have going on, physically and time wise. I definitely need to sit down with Jeff and make a realistic plan! I’m really good at getting myself into too much at one time.

With the holidays coming I really need to watch myself and not stretch myself too thin. Of course, picking up heavy stuff might just get me through the craziness!

Plunder and Rodan+Fields will be ramping up with holiday specials and goodies, and I need to be ready for that.

In fact Plunder just rolled out a few specials today! These are all limited quantity and while supplies last. As they come in I will post them here and on my Facebook page. If you follow my blog page they will be posted there as well as my personal page. If we are not already Facebook friends you can send me a friend request to Janet Earling.

 

 

 

 

Along with these specials Plunder announced reduced shipping for orders under $25! This is HUGE! To take advantage of these specials just log onto my website http://www.plunderdesign.com/grandma2glamma and choose a party with my name in it. They will all be listed in the “specials” tab. Email me if you have any questions at grandma2glamma@gmail.com.

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Happy Halloween

🎃Happy Halloween 🎃

Are you ready for the little ghosts and goblins? Do you dress up and “get into” it or just wait for the kids to knock on the door?

We go through spurts! Sometimes we decorate the house completely, sometimes not at all. Sometimes we all dress up and canvas the neighborhood as a family, but this year is going to be low-key.

Halloween being in the middle of the week puts a damper on some plans. I don’t think “The Man” minds too much though. He will dress up when we “make him” lol, but I don’t think he likes it, haha (or maybe he just doesn’t like the photos).

The family dress up theme started the year Noah was born and has continued to incorporate every one.

Here is where it started:

Mickey, Minnie, and Donald
Wendy, Peter Pan, and Captain Hook

Then Miss Quinn came along.

The Smurfs

Then the following year we all got in on the act and I resurrected my sewing machine.

Meet the Flintstones

And it grew from there

Horror movie couples: Frankenstein and the Bride of Frankenstein, Gomez and Morticia, and Chuckie and the Bride of Chuckie

Our horror movie couples came about from the dress below: Our thrift store find “Vintage Versace”. At least that’s what the price tag said, lol. Although Versace was spelled incorrectly. I’m going with it.

Which came about the year before; 2014 was the year my son and DIL became engaged. As a prank for Halloween that year, we decided to decorate their yard during the night. This was the result.

They woke up to this the next morning and sent us a picture wanting to know if we had anything to do with it, lol!

I still laugh about it when I think of us sneaking around putting them up during the night and their windows were wide open! It was quite a sight. Well, running around gathering the stuff to make the scarecrows at the last-minute was quite an endeavor and sight too!

Last year it was time to get Lessa into the act as well. It is also when Noah and Miss Quinn started coming up with their own ideas and we had to get really creative.

The Mario game

That’s what brought on the Mario game theme. Noah was insistent on being a ghost and Miss Quinn just had to be a princess. So Noah is the ghost in the game and Miss Quinn is princess peach. Lessa is Yoshi. I think the rest is self-explanatory. But if not, Amanda is a mushroom, Chelsea is Mario, I’m Luigi, and Patrick is a mystery box.

This year they had their own ideas again and we could come up with nothing to make it work to incorporate everyone.

So if everyone does dress up, we will all be different without a clear theme. There was talk of everyone being circus animals and I could be the ringmaster or zoo animals and I could be the zookeeper, lol, but that isn’t happening. So it will be a surprise, that I will share with you later.

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It’s Time To Get Serious Again

Happy Monday!

Did you have a good weekend?

I hope you had a chance to have some fun or just relax and recharge for the new week.

For the most part we made it a lazy weekend. So lazy, in fact, I had pajamas on by 6pm Saturday, was in bed by 7:30, and asleep at 8:30! I actually slept better and longer than I had in a very long time! According to Fitbit anyway!

I did get some things accomplished first though.

I made it to the #saturday7amsocialclub and then off to my session with Jeff. Just as I walked into the gym I received a text message from Jeff.

It went like this:

Do you know how easy it would have been to turn around and go back out that door? I have to admit I was a bit torn. A gift? Maybe. An easy way out? Oh Yeah, You bet! But, it had already been 2 1/2 weeks since our last session I could not afford to keep that pattern up. I NEEDED a good workout! I had also made the decision that I was getting my head back in the game and it was not the time to let a snag in the day derail that! I had a week of “carb-loading”, but I really used it as a week to just eat. Then last week was an eat what I felt like week. It was as if I really couldn’t get “full”. Were the races the weekend before still in my head? I don’t know, but I do know keeping it up is not an option; unless I want to go backwards. And I seem to have done enough of that! So I got busy.

Part way through the work out, I got a new message.

By the time Jeff arrived I was 3 into the 5×5 at 145, so we finished that up and then Jeff stretched me out for about 20 minutes. I didn’t do all on the list he sent me. I was actually shaky from what I had done. Was it because it had been so long since a good work out? Was it because this was the first time I had ever done a workout like this on my own? Had he not come in I would have continued on with the list, though. His session after me canceled so he came all the way over for just that short time.

Let me just tell you I was feeling that workout yesterday morning. Well, really later Saturday evening 😳.

“The Man” and I got all our shopping and running around done Saturday. Sunday was going to be a wash out according to the weather report so we decided to get it over with. “The Man” was excited we had to go to his favorite store “Sams”. After all we had to pick up Halloween candy for the trick or treaters….$50 later for just candy! Is that overkill? Probably this year, since Halloween is in the middle of the week. Our neighborhood is usually a hot bed of activity, but it has dwindled down the last couple of years. I have been giving kids a couple of pieces of candy each and still have plenty left over; add to that all the candy Noah and Miss Quinn will bring home and we are going to be a candy coma! I hope we have a lot of kids this year otherwise I will be put to the test! After all, I am a chocoholic😳!

Do you have a lot of kids on Halloween? I love seeing the little kids dressed up and having fun.

Do you have strategies for keeping the candy away, or is not a problem for you? If you are able to forget the candy is there, what is your secret? I try to buy candy I don’t like. If I don’t care for it, it’s much easier to “let it go”! For the really littles ones I try to get animal cookies or lollipops. I try to make sure there is something just for them.

October has been such a busy month! With the Rodan+Fields new product launch of: The Intensive Hydration Serum (November will see the Active Hydration Bright Eye Complex), YTT, the races and now Halloween. Now we have the holidays upon us. I’d like to say good riddance to the craziness, but I think the crazy days are going to ramp up fast!

If you want to up your skin care game for the holidays now is the time! For the remainder of October (today and tomorrow) any PC order (current or new PC) will go into a drawing for the Active Hydration Bright Eye Complex! You can place your order at: http://jearlingbencivenni.myrandf.com. This has been an “eye changer” for me this month. My eyes had started looking pretty tired….email me at grandma2glamma@gmail.com with any questions you may have.

I’m starting a new 21 day meditation series with Oprah and Deepak from the Chopra Center. This is a free series and you can find it here, you can also download an app for that. I have done some of these meditations before and find them very relaxing. With the holidays coming, I imagine we could all use some relaxation! Won’t you join me for this series?

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A Trip Down Memory Lane

Happy Friday! The weekend is here! Yay!?!

Do you have plans?

I don’t really. Well, unless my usual Saturday activities count. Last weekend was busy enough. I definitely NEED to see Jeff (don’t tell him that though, lol). It’s been two weeks since we’ve worked out and I can tell. Along with that I have eaten without discretion this week….it’s time to reign it in!

Fall seems to be back, at least for a bit. We shall see if it stays. With that in mind I think it may be time to switch my clothes around. THAT will take plenty of the weekend up….I’ve been holding out because when I did it in the spring, winter just wasn’t ready to let go and I had to keep going back and forth.

Earlier this week Facebook showed me my “memories” from last year. Sometimes that’s good, sometimes not so much. This time was it was good.

It was from the same weekend/dates as the races, last week. Last year on the same dates “The Man” and I took time for a weekend getaway. We wandered to the Eastern Shore of Maryland to a little town called Berlin.

It’s where the movie Runaway Bride with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere was filmed. The weather for that same weekend last year was much different from what it was for the races! It was very seasonal if not down right chilly.

When we visited Berlin we stayed at the historic Atlantic Hotel, which is the hotel Richard Gere stayed in during the movie (and the only hotel in town).

I had hoped to get to stay in the exact same room but wasn’t that lucky. We were given the room across the hall. I did however, get to go in and see the “Richard Gere Room” as the hotel leaves it open for tours when not in use. There are a couple of B&B’s in the town, but I was intrigued by the hotel.

The Richard Gere Room

That was the highlight of the trip, lol!

Below is the room we stayed in. It was actually a bit larger (and maybe nicer) than the Richard Gere Room. But a girl can have a dream, right?

Please forgive the poor lighting of the pictures. This was pre-blog, so I wasn’t focused on picture quality and only had our phones. I tried to lighten them a bit, but it made them worse.

Hey look at that, I only took one suitcase…..Okay it was the largest suitcase and we only stayed two nights….but still it was just one. And a bag…..and…..you never know what you might need, right?

Can you believe almost everything was in my “signature color”?  LOL. And, of course that is the color I chose to wear, haha.

Here are some photos from the floor our room was on.

A few more pictures of the town.

I hope the man doesn’t see the one below, lol, he might shoot me…. 😉

The corner view of the hotel

“The Man” had been hearing about Berlin being a great place to visit on the radio and bugged me for weeks to make reservations to go.  He was quite shocked to find there was nothing “to do” there. It really is just a small town full of antique shops and such. We walked the entire town multiple times, shopped, and ate. While there wasn’t much as far as “things to do” it was a nice quiet weekend just hanging out. Throughout the year they hold various activities, that of course draws a crowd. There are even ghost tours coming up and word is the hotel is haunted. If so, our room was not bothered while we were there. I would certainly recommend it as a quick getaway and will go back.

Getting there was quite and adventure. I drove down, and had an idea of where Berlin was, just not how to get into the town and to the hotel. So I head out towards Ocean City, and the GPS kept trying to get me to go a dozen different ways. “The Man” kept insisting I should follow the GPS directions. About half way there I got tired of listening to him and did…..yeah….we went to Delaware and then back Maryland and came in on the other side of where we would have had I just kept going!!! I could have shot him…really. Men! Lol! It’s always something…

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Until the next time

Janet

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Simple Pleasure Thursday 10/26

Wow! It’s Thursday already! Time sure does fly! Someone I know on Facebook posted yesterday that it was only two months until Christmas! I had not thought that far ahead.

Have you?

I am not ready to even think about it!

Do you have a simple or guilty pleasure to share this week?

My simple pleasure this week came to me during the races this past weekend. Now I know I shared my adventures with you yesterday, but I left some things out to share today. I felt they needed their own time and page.

My simple pleasure is the sense of community I witness every time I run at home.

As many of you know I live in Baltimore, MD. There are two Baltimore’s in a sense. There is the City of Baltimore (which is what most people refer to when talking about Baltimore) and Baltimore County (that’s where I live). The county is an area of suburbs made up of numerous communities that once had their own name (mine is Dundalk).

Unless you live under a rock or don’t watch the news, you have likely heard of some discord and goings on in Baltimore City the past few years (I am being kind). Baltimore, has gotten a pretty bad rap. What you see in the news and media is a racial divide. What doesn’t get portrayed is the strong sense of community in the city.

They don’t show the residents that come out every year to support a group of 20,000+ runners from all 50 states and this year 34 countries who run through their neighborhoods (sometimes a couple of times a year as there may be more than one race that comes through). As runners we are from ALL walks of life, all races, religions, ethnicities, but what we see are other runners.

You don’t see the men, women, and children, of Baltimore, who are up at the crack of dawn and on their front steps, porches, or stoops waiting as the first runner runs past and still there when the “back of the packers” come through (I know, that’s my tribe sometimes). They don’t see race, ethnicities or religions either. They are there to cheer the runners on (from the first elite runner to the struggling straggler); the runners that are invading their neighborhoods, offering encouraging words, high fiving (and you can bet if a child is there for a high-five I will make sure they get one, even if it slows me down), and often times offering snacks; that may include gummy bears, bagels, bananas, sliced oranges, pretzels, chips, you name it, water, and even beer. This is in addition to the water and Gatorade stops put out by the race team. These folks put out their own money to provide snacks and water along they way to help the runners reach the finish line. Runners they have probably never met and may or may not ever see again. And let me just tell you, runners are a trusting bunch. We partake. When you are “running on empty” and that orange slice shows up, you take it and thank the person standing there. The term “stranger danger” never enters your mind. If you are hurting and another runner comes by and offers Tylenol or something to help with the pain; you take it and don’t even think twice. It’s these things that always reminds me of one of my favorite quotes.

“In spite of everything I still believe people are really good at heart”. Anneliese (Anne) Marie Frank 1929-1945

In other cities where I’ve run, there is crowd support and organizations that set up along the route with snacks and such for runners. Heck, we had a smorgasbord in D.C. at times, but in Baltimore it’s the “people”, the community that give of themselves. People helping people. This is the Baltimore that I know. This is the Baltimore I hope others see and I hope you see that in your community as well.

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It Is Done

Happy Wednesday! It is done. The races are over!

Have you missed me this past week? Lol!

Did you have a wild weekend? Tell us all about it!

It’s was a wild one here!

Okay, this past week was a wild week, if you want to know the truth. Last week was race week! Saturday and Sunday were race days! Yes, it is finally done and over!

Now it is time to put my focus on YTT and finishing that. I need to get back on schedule with Jeff. It seems like I haven’t worked out with him in forever! He got sick and we had to cancel our last session at the last-minute.

I wasn’t terribly anxious about it last week, leading up to race time, surprisingly. Now that’s not saying the taper/race crazies didn’t set in. That is a story for another day! If you’ve ever raced or done any type of event that caused a taper, you know how that can go! To top it off I woke up Friday morning snuffling with fall allergies (I thought). Now I know I should have been taking something all week, but no….not me….now I am still snuffling.

Thursday night we loaded up the bus and went to packet pickup for the Baltimore half marathon (which was Saturdays race). Noah and Miss Quinn ran in the “kids fun run” and went to pick up their packets too!

Picking up their first ever race packets

How cute are they?

Friday we loaded up the bus and went to D.C. to pick up my packet for the Marine Corps Marathon-MCM which was Sunday. All of us, my daughter, me, and all four littles 😳. It was a long day. The kiddos did pretty good. Caterina aka Baby Sunshine started melting down on the way home. She was unhappy for the last 30-45 minutes, but we made it.

We got home, ate pizza (carb loading you know) and went to bed early. The kids fun run didn’t start until 9:20 and the half marathon started at 9:45 (that’s too late) but we needed to get downtown early to park. Beth, my Daughter in Law, her sister Jackie, and friend Jessica were running the 5K which started at 7:30 (I wish that had been the half) and we wanted to be there for that!

We all ran to honor Sgt Eric Houck (25), U.S. Army who was K.I.A. on June 10, 2017. Eric’s sister in law is my daughters friend and co-worker.

Part of our group

This was just part of our group that participated. Chelsea, my oldest sons girl friend had not arrived yet. While we were waiting we also met Eric’s aunt who ran the 5K and as they were starting we saw another runner wearing the shirt, dedicating her miles to Eric, my friend Sid Busch also ran for Eric as well as two other Maryland sailors who were lost earlier this summer.

crossing the start line

There were a couple of other runners in the half too that ran for Eric. They passed me by mile three…From the runners we know that ran in Eric’s honor we tallied 124.4 miles ran this past weekend dedicated to Eric.

Saturday was a hot one. The temperature was unseasonably warm and the humidity was kicking. I walked much more than I normally would have if I had planning on running for time. I lost time on a potty stop, because I didn’t hit the port a let one last time before the start. Then I walked over a mile with my friend Sid from 3 to almost 5. He was having some tummy issues and had to stop off. I was hoping Amanda and Chelsea would pick him up as they came through but they didn’t. After I left Sid I ran my intervals until around mile 11, altering them to a shorter run time at some point. After that I kicked a pebble up in my shoe and had to stop to get it out. That almost did me in. I tightened up and couldn’t get my rhythm back so I walked those last couple of miles. I tried a couple of times to pick it up, but I just couldn’t get it working. I waited until the end and when I turned the corner to the finish I mustered up and ran it in to the finish!

heading for the finish

Although I finished much slower than I normally would have, I was ahead of the time for my first ever race. Even though I wasn’t going for time since I had the marathon the next day, I was glad of that.

After my finish, while waiting for Chelsea and Amanda to finish a man who was 91 years old crossed the finish line! He ran the half marathon! He was with two other men who helped him along, but bless him! I have been scouring the race website for a photo, but haven’t seen one yet. I want to be like him when I grow up!

Waiting to start
getting it done
getting her medal
getting his medal
Two little finishers!

Noah and Miss Quinn enjoyed the kids fun run. Noah said, he wants to do the 5K next year (at least that’s what he says now). We will see. We missed seeing them run and finish, because they started the kid late and the older kids ran first.

After the race we came home, showered, went to get some dinner, and came home to sleep and get ready for Sunday’s MCM. We had to be up at 3am to hit the road by 4:00. It was definitely a long weekend.

Heading to the start.

Day two

All of the “official photos” aren’t sorted yet, so I haven’t bought them, yet, to get a “clear” image. I wasn’t thinking clearly enough, that early, to have “The Man” take pictures. I was flustered after we finally found where to drop Amanda off for the Circle of Remembrance and the Blue Mile, then finally made it back to our parking garage.

Sunday was also hot and humid too. I had hoped that the earlier start time would help beat it (we started at 7:55 vs Saturday at 9:45) but it was humid early and heated up quickly.

The start line.

The start line of MCM

“The Man” did take a few photos at the MCM start, but they aren’t all uploading right. These are the ones I could get to load.

Skydivers before the start. I’ll stick to running!

The Marines getting ready to present the colors.

The wall of flags we ran past after crossing the start.

There is one from every state.

Below is me around mile 11. I tried to look excited and happy for the camera. I might even “almost” have both feet off the ground, (runners always hope for that in a picture), lol!

This is how I really looked and/or felt, lol!

Can we just be done now?

Below is the start of the “Blue Mile”. This is the mile dedicated to the fallen soldiers. If you can go through here and not get emotional, there is something wrong with you. I walked this entire stretch. I could not run it. Most of these young men and women were under 30 years old. Just babies.

The Blue Mile

Eric’s picture was next to the last, before we went through the flags. This mile is presented by volunteers from the Wear Blue Run to Remember group. There was a flag for each soldier. My daughter, Amanda, held Eric’s.

Eric’s photo on the mile and then the flags of remembrance.

I was never so happy to see a mile post sign! It was almost done! It was still an uphill climb to the finish, though!

Almost there!

The marines line that stretch encouraging you along the way. Running uphill was not happening for me, at that point.

But.

I mustered up a smile and once I made that turn, I ran for and across the finish line!

I see the finish line

Finished! Done! It is over! I did it!

Done!

I may have cried just a bit when that cute marine put that medal around my neck. Okay, I cried many times throughout both days. It was a very emotional weekend. I am even weepy writing this now. Maybe I need to do a kids fun run…..

Below are a few more photos from the day.

Crossing the first bridge before mile three.

I wanted to take pictures everywhere, but I couldn’t stop. I knew I was running against the clock and couldn’t take too much time to “lally gag”.

I was lucky as it was. Because of the heat, they closed part of the course to allow everyone to finish that stood a chance.  I would have finished one way or another but I was going slow. There were several runners that were picked up by the “straggler” bus. I passed many people who were struggling and hurting. Some I know started out too fast as they had passed me early on.

I still have all my toenails (often times you lose them), but I did get this gnarly blister! TMI? (Sorry, I had to share) it actually looked worse the next day.

My blister

There was a man who is 60+ years old that finished just behind me that runs races barefooted! I can only imagine what his feet look like!

Post race meal. Jersey Mikes Sub! My standby, giant #6 Mikes Way plus mayo!  Can I just say it was delish!?! I only ate half and brought the rest home, but I think I could have finished it all right there.

Jersey Mike’s sub! Mmm Mmm good

Thank you for coming along on my runs! I hope you may have gotten a little chuckle out of parts of my story. But most importantly, even though I tried to be funny, these runs were undertaken to remember those who gave it all for the freedoms we enjoy every day. Please take a moment today or any day to thank a solider when you see them. Not just a soldier, but the police that put their lives on the line for us each day. These men and women leave home every day never knowing for sure they will return.

The news this past week has been fettered with something that the supposed “leader” (I use that term loosely) of this great country said “they knew what they signed up for” in reference to a fallen soldier. Yes, they did. AND THEY did it any way. They have given the ultimate sacrifice. That’s more than some have done (especially the one that said this)!!!! No, I’m not going to go political here. But I just had to get a bit of my feelings on that out.

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Janet

 

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Fashion Friday-A Fashion Question For You

It’s Friday! Happy Friday….Friday the 13th!! Oh boy, and in October…

Scary? Good Luck? Just another day? Are you superstitious?

I have a friend who is so superstitious he takes off work and stays in the house every Friday the 13th. Can you believe we are almost half way through October? Halloween is just around the corner.

Maybe that’s why I’ve been playing around in Targets’ Halloween section with the animal heads when we go, lol! The last time we were there I just had to try on another one. It went with my outfit after all, lol! I showed you the first one here, “The Man” all but dared me that day. I did this one all on my own.

Wasn’t it just puurrrrr-fect?

Do you dress up and “get into” Halloween? We have been dressing up with the littles as a family, with a theme the past few years. I will share that with you later this month. I’m not quite sure what we are doing this year. Noah and Miss Quinn are starting to come up with their own ideas for dressing up and they don’t usually sync up with each other never mind getting everyone in on it….

This morning I was woke up out of a good sleep, by a phone call, from “The Man”, slightly before 5am (no wonder I’m dragging)…now for starters a call when he is at work and I’m in bed, scares the bejesus out of me. I answered the phone to hear “your coffee’s on the table”. What? “With donuts”. Huh? I’m thinking to myself, why are you stopping home with coffee and donuts? You’re route isn’t near here on Friday. I didn’t voice this as my brain was still trying to process this and my heart was slowing down to normal again….all the while he was still talking away. The man of few words, cannot be quiet some times. He went on to explain that he told me was going to be home early on friday for the the next few weeks, until the beginning of November, due to some rerouting and a new route taking effect. I remember he said something about being home early. I wasn’t expecting it to be before 5am….but he did bring me coffee. That’s something, right? Oh, and donuts. I didn’t need the donuts…but did that stop me? Bahahaha!!! No.

Are you ready for the weekend? Do you have plans?

I hope my weekend is pretty uneventful. I’m meeting my Rodan+Fields friend, Kathy, for dinner tonight and I have my usual Saturday activities on the agenda; the #saturday7amsocialclub meeting and my session with Jeff, but that’s all. After last weeks full weekend with YTT and next week being the races (YIKES) staying in this weekend sounds pretty good. It’s “The Man’s” Saturday to work and after birthday parties two Sunday’s in a row, I know he is looking forward to not going anywhere Sunday. He thinks he’s going to stop working Saturdays by the end of the year…..whatever will I do? I’m not sure this will work, for me, lol….

I will do a short run Sunday morning and then start the “taper” process, in hopes to be ready for races next week. According to the scale I have already started the carb-loading process (that’s my story and I’m sticking to it)….what’s bad about that is because of YTT last week I haven’t weighed in for October yet….I will have to do that tomorrow at the meeting (unless I don’t go). That’s not a good option since I missed last week and will miss next week due to the races. So I will go, weigh in, and live with my choices. I will still be under goal, I just don’t like “seeing” that number go up even when I know why. Add to that me going out to eat tonight. I did have a bit of a plan for that, but then pumpkin spice donuts entered the house this morning and I didn’t “just say no”…..it’s life. You live it and move on.

Okay. It is Fashion Friday, after all, so let’s have a little fashion talk.

This morning I was scrolling through Facebook and one of the members of the 40+style club posted a question/dilemma.

Below is her post:

“Can we discuss dressing to be situationally appropriate? I couldn’t find any threads already started.

I live in an area that is very casual and pulling myself together with a statement necklace is enough to make me feel conspicuous. This is ok but as I start figuring out the clothing that really makes my heart happy I’m afraid I will stand out like a clown. When I travel outside of my locale I’m much more apt to be authentic.

Case and point: I have a mtg this morning at a coffee shop. I really want to wear my new lace dress with a chambray short jacket and lt grey sneakers. I won’t wear it because it would be too over the top. I’ll probably wear a lace blouse instead w jeans.

Just wondering if you girls think about this and how many of you go with your heart.❤️

My first thought was, how sad for her. And how awful to possibly need two different wardrobes. Then it brought to mind an encounter I had a few weeks ago. The area I live in is a very “blue collar”, casual type area and getting more casual with some of the younger crowd that is moving in.

I showed you the outfit in the picture below last month and I consider this to be a rather casual outfit. It can be elevated, but it would still be casual. Overall I consider my style casual, classic, occasionally romantic and a little boho. I seem to go through phases. During the week with the littles I tend to dress more casually than I do on the weekends, but I still like to look nice.

I wore this exact outfit a couple of weeks ago with the sleeveless vest and statement necklace below. The necklace is from the Plunder Fall Line and is called Dallas. It had just arrived a day or so before and I think is perfect with this top. Actually I just love it period! It’s eclectic, quirky, fun, and definitely makes a statement.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I had to take Noah to the bus, then run a few errands before heading out to pick Miss Quinn up from school. When I walked Noah to the bus stop, one of the young mothers commented that I looked nice and sure was dressed up. Really? Dressed up? I think this is pretty casual, even with the addition of the vest and necklace. What do you think? Dressed up or casual?

Does wearing something other than sweatpants with “bootylicious”  written across the rear end or pajama pants out and about constitute being “dressed up” these days? I sure hope not! There are still plenty of ladies in our neighborhood who wouldn’t dream of going out the door if every hair wasn’t in place and fresh lipstick applied. Thank goodness for them!

I admit, I don’t wear makeup every day; I never have, but I do try to dress nice and do my hair. I don’t know about you, but I feel better when, as the saying goes, “I get up, dress up, and show up”. I definitely feel different on days that I know I’m not going anywhere and may not put much effort or thought into how I dress. And yes, I have those days where I will hang in the house in sweats and such. Those are usually house cleaning days and I have never bought into dressing up to scrub the floor. I would change before going out though.

What would your advice be to the member who posted this?

I say: Wear what you want/like. Be you/do you, let them wonder why you are “dressed up” or “over the top”. Maybe others want to dress as you do yet have the same feelings. Maybe you will inspire them to be who they want to be.

I would love to hear your opinion.

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Have great weekend!

Until the next time

Janet

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Simple Pleasure Thursday 10/12

It’s Thursday! That must mean it’s time for our simple/guilty pleasures.

Do you have a simple or guilty pleasure to share this week? Mine is a bit silly, but that’s what simple pleasures are for, right?

This past week has been crazy busy as I’ve been telling you about. The Rodan+Fields convention, YTT, and now integrating back into real life, oh and let’s not forget mountains on top of mountains of homework!

My simple pleasure this week is thanks to the R+F girls!

I do believe I have mentioned at least once or twice that we have a R+F business opportunity call every month and a team call each week. Last week three ladies from our team got together and headed to Charleston, SC for a virtual convention event. Two ladies from Virginia, Tania and LeighAnn (who are practically neighbors) met Lucille from New Jersey, at an airport in North Carolina before driving on to South Carolina. They had never met her in person before.

When we had our ZOOM call Wednesday night LeighAnn was so excited! She had finally met someone shorter than her! Apparently Lucille is only 5′ tall. When I told them she had me beat (you know I’ve told you I can only claim 5′ on an eighties hair day) they couldn’t believe it! They said they thought I would be tall. I guess sitting down in front of the computer on a call makes me look tall, lol! I’m going to be meeting one of the other girls, Kathy, for dinner tomorrow night. She lives in Delaware and we are going to meet about half way. We are both excited! That’s the good thing about living in tiny states; you don’t have to travel far to get to the next one, lol. They told Kathy she would have to report back on if I really was that short.

I have decided they don’t pay attention to Facebook very much. I had posted the pictures below just a couple of weeks ago of me with a few guys from the gym. We all wore the same shirt that night, and Derrick (one of the trainers) just had to take a picture because we all matched. I’m sure they will be excited to know they made the blog as a “fashion statement”!

After we finished the call, I reposted these and tagged the girls! My post said “if I’m tall these guys must be giants”. What’s really funny is they had all liked or commented on it previously…..too funny!

So that was my simple pleasure this week. Finding out that behind the screen, at least, people think I’m tall. Maybe there’s still a chance I will grow up one day. And having fun, making friends, and bonding with ladies from all over even though we haven’t met in person.

Please share your simple or guilty pleasure for this week.

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Until the next time

Janet

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Sharing a Story

Last week my friend Anne from the blog Soulmate Dance asked this question: “What’s your story?” She is looking for those who have a story to share and would be willing to share it.

I am sharing her quest with you today.

Do you have a story to tell? Do you want to share your story with Anne?

If so:

Read Anne’s post below for details, then head over to her Facebook page and connect with her.

***What’s Your Story? ***

Soulmate Dance is looking for your midlife stories to share during our 30 Days of Love Celebration starting October 20.

❤️ Did you find true love after 50?

❤️ Did you finally fall in love with yourself? Maybe for the first time. Maybe you had been lost and found yourself again.

❤️ Did you leave a dead-end relationship or job and turn it into a transformation?

❤️ Did a stale relationship reignite? Or a troubled relationship find healing?

❤️ Did you discover new interests and hobbies?

❤️ Did you meet the best friend you’ve always craved?

❤️ Did you find yourself caring for a difficult parent and find new depths of compassion?

Love shows up in many ways. What’s your Love after 50 story?

The stories selected will be featured on the Soulmate Dance blog and Facebook page, one per day starting October 20.

Why October 20?

❤️ It’s our 5th wedding anniversary. We met in our fifties and that was the genesis for Soulmate Dance.

❤️ Soulmate Dance, the blog, is getting a makeover and this is our unveiling party.

If you have a story to share, send me a PM and I’ll send you the details. Tag a friend. Share the post.

#Love Your Stories

Art Credit: Rose Dalton

This beautiful art work was used with permission from the artist and my friend Rose Dalton. If you would like to see more of Rosie’s work go check out her Facebook page Rosie Dalton.

Until the next time

Janet

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